I’ll admit it. I don’t like Donald Trump. I just don’t. I didn’t like Rush Limbaugh before him. They are the same guy, in different bodies, and in different clothes. They are, simply put, bullies. I hate bullies because I hate what bullying does to others.
That said, I don’t like whiners either. I don’t like having to parse my words, worrying about the political context of some phrase that some group of people has decided is oppressive. I don’t like politically correct people, because they’re too much work, for very little return. It’s probably White, Male privilege that allows me to take that tack, but there’s only so much time in a life, and I’m willing to work hard at life and relationships with people who want to have relationships.
Do either of these things make me a jerk? I suppose they could. I think they make me normal. Life includes pain. It does, but it shouldn’t have to. If I’m having trouble with someone, it should be about something, and about something real. And if I’m hurting someone, I should stop doing it. More often than not, I will.
With all of that said, there are things that not normal, not good, not healthy — things that are just plain stupid and never need to be said. Real men don’t say them, don’t try to prove their worth by them, just simply don’t go there. Lately, in the press, there have been a lot of men using “the B word” and “the C word” to refer to women. Megan Kelly is a case in point.
Limbaugh’s “femi-nazi” was bad enough, but Trump seems to want to go all the way in treating Kelly badly, making remarks that seemed to be about her having a period. Really? I’m sure in his delusional mind, he believes she’s “fulfilled as a woman” by having a child. I want to remind him that you can’t do one without the other. Menstruation means having the ability to have children. It goes with the territory. Deal with it.
So then, Trump sees that she won’t back down, and she’s actually going to do her job as a reporter. Now, suddenly she’s the problem and he won’t deal with her in the debates because — what? she might offend him?! — This is the pot calling the kettle black.
But wait, there’s more and here’s my point. Trumps outbursts and willingness to say nearly anything and offend nearly everyone allows people that are his followers — like Limbaugh before him — to show that they’re “big and bad” too. They can use the B word for a woman and — if they’re in an “I don’t care” mood, just to prove their point, will throw in the “C” word for good measure.
Are you kidding me?! When a woman has something to say, or a life of her own, or a career, she’s suddenly a body part and that’s all? She becomes a female of another species? Really? And, suddenly, she’s changed professions as well? These are the things that people feel free to say to women and think that wins the argument. That is the stupidest idea on record! People who refuse to engage in a conversation don’t get to win an argument.
Anyone who can’t have a conversation with a woman isn’t fit to be in their species… or mine. It doesn’t make them more manly. It makes them more ridiculous. It doesn’t make them better men, because it doesn’t make them better humans.
Women: this is true of men anywhere. No man should use these words. We know this. Don’t settle for people who treat you as sub-human. As a heterosexual man, I have to say, I like women’s “lady parts” because I like women and those parts are part of who they are. We have a bitch at my house. She has four legs and tail and answers to “Lady”, but I don’t even call her that. “Dog” will do fine. The idea that my daughters or my wife have to be called a sexual professional because they decide to think for themselves — probably the last thing a sexual professional does! — is degrading as all hell.
It’s not that I’m perfect. I’m not. But on the Bell Curve of male humanity, I’m somewhere in the middle. These idiots are on the second or third standard deviation, or should be. I have no respect for a man who loses all perspective when he gets challenged by a woman. I accept that life includes challenge. Any man who can’t deal with challenge or sharing life without being an idiot is the very thing he’s saying she is –inferior. That’s not leadership. That’s not power. That’s not worth respect. That’s just dumb, and I hate it.
Not feeling very peaceful…